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Travel
is
a
fantastic
self
-
development
tool
,
because
it
extricates
you
from
the
values
of
your
culture
and
shows
you
that
another
society
can
live
with
entirely
different
values
and
still
function
and
not
hate
themselves
.
This
exposure
to
different
cultural
values
and
metrics
then
forces
you
to
reexamine
what
seems
obvious
in
your
own
life
and
to
consider
that
perhaps
it
’
s
not
necessarily
the
best
way
to
live
.
In
this
case
,
Russia
had
me
reexamining
the
bullshitty
,
fake
-
nice
communication
that
is
so
common
in
Anglo
culture
,
and
asking
myself
if
this
wasn
’
t
somehow
making
us
more
insecure
around
each
other
and
worse
at
intimacy
.
I
remember
discussing
this
dynamic
with
my
Russian
teacher
one
day
,
and
he
had
an
interesting
theory
.
Having
lived
under
communism
for
so
many
generations
,
with
little
to
no
economic
opportunity
and
caged
by
a
culture
of
fear
,
Russian
society
found
the
most
valuable
currency
to
be
trust
.
And
to
build
trust
you
have
to
be
honest
.
That
means
when
things
suck
,
you
say
so
openly
and
without
apology
.
People
’
s
displays
of
unpleasant
honesty
were
rewarded
for
the
simple
fact
that
they
were
necessary
for
survival
—
you
had
to
know
whom
you
could
rely
on
and
whom
you
couldn
’
t
,
and
you
needed
to
know
quickly
.
But
,
in
the
“
free
”
West
,
my
Russian
teacher
continued
,
there
existed
an
abundance
of
economic
opportunity
—
so
much
economic
opportunity
that
it
became
far
more
valuable
to
present
yourself
in
a
certain
way
,
even
if
it
was
false
,
than
to
actually
be
that
way
.
Trust
lost
its
value
.
Appearances
and
salesmanship
became
more
advantageous
forms
of
expression
.
Knowing
a
lot
of
people
superficially
was
more
beneficial
than
knowing
a
few
people
closely
.
This
is
why
it
became
the
norm
in
Western
cultures
to
smile
and
say
polite
things
even
when
you
don
’
t
feel
like
it
,
to
tell
little
white
lies
and
agree
with
someone
whom
you
don
’
t
actually
agree
with
.
This
is
why
people
learn
to
pretend
to
be
friends
with
people
they
don
’
t
actually
like
,
to
buy
things
they
don
’
t
actually
want
.
The
economic
system
promotes
such
deception
.
The
downside
of
this
is
that
you
never
know
,
in
the
West
,
if
you
can
completely
trust
the
person
you
’
re
talking
to
.
Sometimes
this
is
the
case
even
among
good
friends
or
family
members
.
There
is
such
pressure
in
the
West
to
be
likable
that
people
often
reconfigure
their
entire
personality
depending
on
the
person
they
’
re
dealing
with
.
Rejection
Makes
Your
Life
Better
As
an
extension
of
our
positivity
/
consumer
culture
,
many
of
us
have
been
“
indoctrinated
”
with
the
belief
that
we
should
try
to
be
as
inherently
accepting
and
affirmative
as
possible
.
This
is
a
cornerstone
of
many
of
the
so
-
called
positive
thinking
books
:
open
yourself
up
to
opportunities
,
be
accepting
,
say
yes
to
everything
and
everyone
,
and
so
on
.
But
we
need
to
reject
something
.
Otherwise
,
we
stand
for
nothing
.
If
nothing
is
better
or
more
desirable
than
anything
else
,
then
we
are
empty
and
our
life
is
meaningless
.
We
are
without
values
and
therefore
live
our
life
without
any
purpose
.
The
avoidance
of
rejection
(
both
giving
and
receiving
it
)
is
often
sold
to
us
as
a
way
to
make
ourselves
feel
better
.
But
avoiding
rejection
gives
us
short
-
term
pleasure
by
making
us
rudderless
and
directionless
in
the
long
term
.
